We know how to turn darkness into light!
It’s how you make sense of your story, not what happened in your past, that is your best predictor of your well being.
In the last weeks I have heard many many a story that could be considered a “sob story”, and listened to people say that they are so blessed by this story. From a miscarriage that was a beautiful experience of motherhood, to feeling blessed for a partner leaving half way through valentines weekend couples retreat.
Let me ask you… If 6 years from now you can look back on it and say, oh I learned so much from that, why not try and do it NOW?! or at least sooner than you have been.
The faster we can make sense of our story and see the good in a “bad” event, the happier we are!
“This is also the level of development where we attain mastery and begin, individually and as a collective soul group, to come together to create our visions of heaven on earth.”
Now I know it’s not always easy to forgive and forget, but what I am finding, is that the more I practice it, the easier it gets. So start with little steps. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither is your happiness.
One of the clarifying moments of my happiness journey was when my dear Derek who had been waiting for months to get his license (and I must mention, I had been waiting months for him to get it as well, because he seemed so intent on the idea that he would be happy WHEN that happened, and I was so intent on the idea that WHEN HE was happy, I could be too. Equally guilty of this sin, but of course I didn’t SEE mine!)
Anyways, Derek gets his license, and 10 min later on the drive home, I said something, that just ticked him off, and POOF.. Happy GONE.
What I’ve learned is that happiness really comes from celebrating the little every day things.. WHY? Because there are lots of them!
If you wait to celebrate just the big things, well, you wait a long time, and you don’t do much celebrating! But if you cherish and celebrate the little things, WELL! You get to celebrate all the time!
One of the beautiful examples of this is BUYING things to make you happy. It does work, and it doesn’t work, and the difference between the two is YOU, and how much you celebrate your new purchase, and for how long.
I bought new boots, if I put them on and wear them once and go, sweet, new boots, I’ll be happy for that moment, and then after a few times wearing them I’ll probably start to take them for granted, or throw them on the shelf and forget about them in my myraid other shoes. This is because boots in themselves have very little happy value, they’re inert and useful. The magic happens when I make a POINT of being excited EVERY TIME I put those boots on, because I use those boots as a REMINDER to be happy. Every time I put them on I have a conscious thought, these boots help me feel extra pretty, “YEA BOOTS!! Boots make me feel pretty! I love feeling pretty! When I feel pretty I feel happy! I love feeling happy!” (yes this is what my brain sounds like)
What do you think will happen? I’ll enjoy putting my shoes on more than anyone else in the world, and my average happiness UPS! (except maybe a 5 year old, which is kind of the point)
Cultivating looking at the world with fresh, appreciative, goofy eyes is one of the biggest things you can do to bring more and more happiness into your life.
Like the air you breathe, abundance in all things is available to you. Your life will simply be as good as you allow it to be.
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