Taking Big Leaps

“Don’t be afraid to take a big step. You can’t cross a chasm in two small jumps!” – David Lloyd George, PM of Britain

I realized today that “the universe” has actually just handed me everything I’ve been asking for so impatiently for the last 6 months.  And.. I find myself scared? I’m so used to being scared that it seems scary to actually get what I want. (what if it gets taken away, what if I don’t want it anymore, what if when I commit to having what I want, I loose it)..

And then I remembered to take my own freaking advice, and not worry about the what ifs, and just embrace the fact that my dream is here! WHOOOO!~!!

Taking the time to appreciate everything in my life, and just get into each moment, has in fact actually worked!

Someone told me that if the universe offers you joy, help, acceptance, whatever.. and you don’t take it.. well that’s just stupid.

So step up to the things you’ve been wanting, and say YES. I believe I deserve my dream. I believe I deserve what I want.  I believe I can have it, can enjoy having it (because I’ve learned to enjoy having something I didn’t actually want too!).. and I choose from this moment forward to create my own freaking life, to take the chances that scare me, because that’s where the adventure, possibilities, freedom and magic live. And That is where I want to be!

“The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.” – Maureen Dowd

So YES! I will love myself, and yes I will love you, and each moment unabashedly. I will dance my life with abandon, basking in each moment.  In my dancing (literal, to music dancing).. sometimes my muscles burn, and my lungs sting, and I take a little break, but I know the music still pulses, and my love of the dance remains, and when I am ready, I’ll jump back in!

In Love! Elena

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Pay yourself First – There will always be bills to pay, get in the habit of making this like a savings deposit a priority and doing it off the top rather than trying to make it after everyone else is paid.  This is a super prosperity consciousness builder.

Take time for yourself.

Our society doesn’t give much recognition for being self indulgent, but being there for others requires that we take excellent care of ourselves. We need to do the things that revitalize us and give us energy and clarity to be supportive of others. From this space we can offer our best.

“Most folks are about as happy as they make their minds up to be” Abraham Lincon

Feeling LUCKY is a Choice for Happiness! From Richard Wiseman’s The Luck Factor

Another important principle revolved around the way in which lucky and unlucky people dealt with the ill fortune in their lives. Imagine being chosen to represent your country in the Olympic games. You compete in the games, do very well, and win a bronze medal.

How happy do you think that would feel? Most of us would, I suspect, be overjoyed and proud of our achievement. Now imagine turning the clock back and competing at the same Olympic games a second time. This time you do even better and win a silver medal. How happy do you think you would feel now? Most of us think that we would feel happier after winning the silver medal than the bronze. This is not surprising. After all, the medals are a reflection of our performance, and the silver medal indicates a better performance than a bronze medal.

But research suggests that athletes who win bronze medals are actually happier than those who win silver medals. And the reason for this has to do with the way in which the athletes think about their performance.  The silver medalists focus on the notion that if they had performed slightly better, then they would have perhaps won a gold medal. In contrast, the bronze medalists focus on the thought that if they had performed slightly worse, then they wouldn’t have won anything at all. Psychologists refer to our ability to imagine what might have happened, rather than what actually did happen, as “counterfactual.”

I wondered whether lucky people might be using counter-factual thinking to soften the emotional impact of the ill fortune that they experienced in their lives. To find out, I decided to present lucky and unlucky people with some unlucky scenarios and see how they reacted. I asked lucky and unlucky people to imagine that they were waiting to be served in a bank. Suddenly, an armed robber enters the bank, fires a shot, and the bullet hits them in the arm. Would this event be lucky or unlucky?

Unlucky people tended to say that this would be enormously unlucky and it would be just their bad luck to be in the bank during the robbery. In contrast, lucky people viewed the scenario as being far luckier, and often spontaneously commented on how the situation could have been far worse. As one lucky participant commented, “It’s lucky because you could have been shot in the head – also, you could sell your story to the newspapers and make some money.”

The differences between the lucky and unlucky people were striking. Lucky people tend to imagine spontaneously how the bad luck they encounter could have been worse and, in doing so, they feel much better about themselves and their lives. This, in turn, helps keep their expectations about the future high, and, increases the likelihood of them continuing to live a lucky life.

elena