Your “flaws” are just personality traits that need the volume turned down a smidge!
So this completely changed my reality when I heard this..
“All of your faults, all the things which you don’t like about yourself are your greatest assets. They are simply over amplified. The volume has been turned up a bit too much, that’s all. Just turn down the volume a little. Soon you, and everyone else, will see your weaknesses as your strengths, your ‘negatives: as your “positives”. They will become wonderful tools, ready to work for you rather than against you. All you have to do is learn to call on these personality traits in amounts that are appropriate to the moment. Judge how much of your wonderful qualities are needed, and don’t give any more than that.” – Debbie Ford
So, our “flaws” are just personality traits that need the volume turned down a smidge!
I remember the rescuing “issue”… I like to jump in and live peoples lives for them, and when we’re talking about “fixing” that, I say.. But I LIKE helping people… I don’t want to stop that! What a beautiful solution this quote provides.. Just turn the volume down a bit..
Instead of micromanaging, I can be an organizer. Turn it down a notch. Instead of being the worrier, I am the person who keeps the big picture and important details in mind.
This is partially re framing, and partially just turning it down a bit!
Giving in amounts that are appropriate to the situation.
I was living my life in a mode of overcompensation in some areas(like other peoples lives), and under action in others (like my own life). So when I help myself first, (turn my attention into myself) and help others second! (turn the volume down, change my focus, whatever you want to call it) Things come out more balanced, work more successfully, and everyone (me first) is happier! Because again.. When I give more to myself, I have more to give others too!
So what character trait will you turn down a bit to be yourself even more fully, and to serve with that much more power and grace??